By Celie Weston.
Improve your Communication, Improve your Life!
"The way we communicate with others and with ourselves ultimately determines the quality of our lives" ~ Anthony Robbins
Powerful Communication is the ability to express what is true for You.
It is saying yes when you mean yes, and no when you mean no. It is standing up for what you believe in and thereby it is standing up for your Self.
Life is not a serious of random events of which you have no control over. You can be your own creator and it is possible to have full control of what happens in your life.
It is a proven fact, that more than 90% of our communication is non-verbal. In other words body language, and the tone of our voice. Only 7% is the spoken word.
In spite of this, people almost completely rely on verbal language to communicate, which results in an enormous amount of information being lost and words misinterpreted.
Body language is a much more direct connection to how we really feel and the survival of many species is based on it. It is impossible to avoid expressing how you really feel if you only communicate with body language.
Unfortunately with the way that we currently communicate, there is often a lack of congruency between our thoughts, words and deeds. We have a tendency to think or say one thing and then do something completely different. Reasons for this can be a lack of confidence, pressure from outside sources, personal fears etc.
But, no matter how you approach this, it is not a powerful state of being.
Instead, it creates a lack of authenticity and personal integrity. The more you try to be something you're not and hide who you really are, your true power, the worse it gets.
It is an easy way to lose your identity. Your identity is your survival. Communication is a necessary means of survival.
Survival is more than just our bodies being alive. True survival is happiness, enjoying the journey and feeling great about your self. Your survival is optimal when you can create anything you want and happiness inevitably follows. It is Your right, Your personal power, and You were born with it!
If our power is diminished, we no longer create, we feel hopeless and unable to change our circumstances. It can be a downward spiral into depression and self destructive behavior. In the long run it is a threat to our very survival because the body itself slowly begins to perish from lack of care, unhealthy food, drug addictions, abuse etc.
If you want change in your life, if you want quality of life, if you want to be in charge of your own destiny, Powerful communication is the key!
Herd animals, such as horses, rely on a leader for their survival. They are an excellent barometer for whether you are living and acting from your authentic self and in tune with your optimal survival.
They demand presence and leadership. If your body language is insecure, nervous or otherwise uncertain, horses will not believe that you are their leader. They will choose not to follow, in order to secure their survival, and they will go their own way. They will become your leader. Much like life itself. If you don't take the reins, something or someone else will.
Here are some ways to improve your communication and power that horses have taught me:
1) Be present. Practice noticing how you feel in different situations and begin to act accordingly. Yes means yes, no means no. Be honest towards what is true to you. Don't worry about the past or the future, they don't exist.
2) Stay in tune with what you want to do. In other words, live your own life, don't try to run someone else'. Stay in your own business.
3) Believe in your self and your goals. Take the "being/presence" of the persona you would like to become. Live from that point as though you are already there. Don't be blinded by the illusions that currently surround you. You are changing them one step at a time.
4) Words create. Change the things you say about yourself. For instance: "I'm so overwhelmed and I haven't got enough time"…to "Life is easy and time is not an issue."
5) Be the leader of your life. Be true to how you feel and stand by it. Take ownership of everything you think, say and do.
6) Be precise/black and white. Create the same reality for everyone in the conversation, by making it crystal clear to yourself and others what you want. Practice saying exactly what you mean, making your statements specific, avoid generalizations. Have a friend repeat your message back to you to ensure that it has been understood correctly.
7) Take responsibility. if you have made a mistake, acknowledge it. Don't make excuses. Treat others like you would like to be treated. Ask how you can correct the mistake and then do it.
And finally,
Show the world who you are, walk your talk, you won't regret it.
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